
Cursing or filthy language is prevalent in our society. The types of words that are now allowed on TV is appalling compared to what was allowed when I was a child. I've had my own stints at poor language in my lifetime. I experimented with bad words when I was a child. The adults who told me that those words were inappropriate were the very adults who taught me those words to begin with. In high school, as many people do, I had a potty mouth. I probably wasn't as bad as some high-schoolers, but I did blurt out my share of bad words. Someone once said something to me that stuck with me to this very day. That person told me, "There are so many wonderful and intelligent words to express how we are feeling, it just makes you look stupid to use bad words!" It's ironic that that same person has one of the dirtiest mouths I know. But, the sentiment wasn't lost on me. I agree. There are so many wonderful and intelligent words out there, why do we resort to the F words or the S words...or any other filthy, dirty, and inappropriate language that exists. Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean that it's right. The bible says "Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving" (Ephesians 5:4). But, this isn't the only reason that I choose not to curse. The fact is, it makes you look stupid. The Oxford dictionary claims that there are upwards of a quarter of a million words in the English language. That means that there are plenty of words that we can choose from to make our point or to express duress, pain, unhappiness, or any number of emotions. Why choose the easy, stupid, four letter, common, dirty, and inappropriate words? It just doesn't make sense to me. Unless you really are stupid and you can't find an alternative word. But, I don't think that's true for most of you. But, first, let me admit. When I stub my toe or get really angry, it's easy for a foul word to cross my lips. And sometimes they do. But, the truth is, I know that I am smarter than those words. So, I do my best to keep those words inside or instead replace them with appropriate, intelligent words. Let me make my point by sharing some interesting quotes about profanity.
"Profanity is the weapon of the witless."
"Profanity is the attempt of a lazy and feeble mind to express itself forcefully."
"When a man uses profanity to support an argument, it indicates that either the man or the argument is weak - probably both."
"Profanity is the common crutch of the conversational cripple."
When I teach my kids about not using profanity, this is the stance that I will be taking. My hope is that my boys will take my advice and will apply it to their lives. I want my boys to be more intelligent than those words allow. I want them to act with appropriateness and to carry themselves like gentlemen. Profanity makes you look stupid or dirty...or both. I want more than that for my children.